it's been along while!

Somehow my line " Live by faith and not by sight" seems to tied in very well with all that has happened over the last month plus abit more. I think if i did not have that much faith i would be far worst off then what i would be now. O hello there, yes finally started writing here again after a long absent. 

So it's been 1 month 2 days since mum passed away. Some how i still don't think she is gone, but yet again i know she is. I so wished she would actually live to she her 60th birthday one of the few prays i asked for from god during the time we were in ICU. But i have come to this conclusion that if god wants to take you he will and if he does not want to take you he won't. Why this is to be simple. We had 1 of our 1 ady training camps during feb. Mum as still in ICU then. 1 of the ppl training with us got hit by a car while she was cycling, miracle is that she flew landed on the windscreen of the car yet she did not break any bones or what so ever. Her bike was totalled none to say the least. So yes if god wants you he will have you. 

I'm grateful for the 4 days i had to spend time with mum when she was out of icu, when she went back to normal ward. Seeing her in such pain at times really broke my heart not to say that i felt totally useless as there was nothing i could do to help her. These are times where you just stand there trying your best to help your mum ease her pain but you can't an it just feels like shitz cause she has given her 59 yrs of her life bring you up an you can't do a thing for her.Surprisingly enough being my mum she still asked me how was last weeks poh pia party that my sister had. This is after going in to coma for a week and waking up, up till then she was still thinking of other ppl. We thought that she would pull through actually, or i, as i have total faith in god. Late one night when we were all at icu, one of the doctors came out to talk to us. Saying mum is not getting any better and we should be ready for the worst. Remember my uncle saying that you know if she could just wake up an see us one more time thats all we asked for. I guess thats why god gave my mum 4 days in normal word to be with us. I did not want to come to terms with that but at the back of my mind this is god saying i grant you your wish. 

Surely enough, on thursday morning, mum's o2 lvl in her lungs dropped. Something was wrong. They did an xray an found that her lungs where starting to fill up with liquid. Being in the condition she was in they could not really do anything much. All the hope was that the antibiotics which they were giving her would work and that her lungs would get better, but on saturday at 730 am in the morning dad called an said mum is in ICU again, but we all know and mum wished that she did not want to be in icu and she also did not want to be on the ventilator.It was her wish as well. Having a tube stuck down your throat in to your lungs to help you breath is i think the most unpleasant thing that can happen to you while you are awake not to say the added stress on the person. So with that mum was sent back to normal ward. During the course of the day i said to god. I know i'm asking for a miracle but could you pls take away mum's suffering if she were to pass away. Pls make it a peaceful one for her, she deserves that much after being your humble servant for the last 20 yrs of her life. 

Surely enough that night at 8.15pm mum passed away not in any pain but in peace. We were all at her bed side when it happened. For the next 4 hrs we all waited for the pulse to stop running through her body. Finally when the line went flat at 12.10am on the 17th of feb the doc's pronounced mum dead. I like to thank everyone for being there for mum and for us during the 1 month in icu and normal ward. The numerous prays from all the different pray groups and ppl from all around the world i know you all were praying for her. During the 4 hrs the amount of peace that came from my mum's room in the hospital the amount of energy that came out of it could calm the hearts of the 50 over ppl that was there. We all knew she has gone to heaven. 

Mum was a fighter, very strong willed and very stubben. She fought her cancer for a yr and 3 months and 3 days. She fought to stay alive in icu for a month. Not many ppl in her condition who go in to ICU get to come out of ICU. Mum you have set an example to many to follow, during your daily life and the time you where in hospital. You were greatly loved by so many from the 5 days you were at home during the wake. You do so much more then other ppl do and is a constant inspiration to alot of ppl till this very day. We use to call you superwomen mum an you really are one. It's been a month mum, i miss you alot and i think we all do still. I know you are up in heaven cause god has told me so. Looking down on us. One day we will join you up there together with the rest of the family who is already with you. Not a day goes by when you were in icu or normal ward that i told you i love you mum and you would answer back i know in your cute way. But to you again mum" I LOVE YOU".